When I tweeted I was considering writing about body image issues today, I got a few positive responses from the folks at Single Minded Women and others. So, here we go … I’m not a “Tits & Ass Man’s” choice. Despite what Sir Mix-A-Lot says, my butt will never look “like one of those rap guys’ girlfriends.” (See Exhibit Badonkadonk: A Picture of My Ass.) The boobies on my chest will always be humble nibbles. (See Exhibit A-Cup: A video of my breasts.) I can make light of this and laugh now, but it wasn’t always that way. I spent much of my teens and my early 20s disliking my body. I wanted to be bigger, curvier and more attractive to men. I figured people who looked like me didn’t get asked out as much as the women with breastier and more bootilicious assets.
Like many (but not all) women, I sometimes have a horrible habit of giving unnecessary attention to things I don’t like about my body. When I was really thin, I wanted curves. Now that I’m a normal weight, I watch what I eat. I’ve since learned there’s no such thing as one perfect body, and I’m developing a healthier relationship with food. Whenever I start freaking out about my size, I divert my thoughts, energy, effort and attention to things that are more important to me — like my writing career, finishing my book, developing deeper spirituality, thinking about my dreams & aspirations and spending time with my family. Besides, I figure everyone has a “Best Physical Trait,” a winning ticket or two. Ages ago, when one of my exes boythings — a cute, white French Canadian brunette with a cute smile — asked which feature I thought was my best asset, I very happily told him my legs:
Inspired by Tina Turner, I strut those things around and show ‘em off in miniskirts and dresses. Seriously, I’ve gotta hand it to Miss Anna Mae Bullock. EVERYONE notices her lower limbs. Former President George W. Bush called them “the most famous in showbusiness.” They’ve also been lauded as simply the best. Hell, even The Onion joked she had a $3.2 million insurance policy on those babies in the satirical piece, Tina Turner Burns Down Legs For Insurance Money. Hats off to her! When I’m 69, I can only hope I look as great as she does. I think she’s gorgeous, and it’s not just about her legs. Rising from a humble and abusive background, she found happiness and blew everyone by accomplishing a lot in her career. But, back to the shallow stuff: I think she’s hot :) So, now, tell me about you. What would you say is your best physical asset and/or which trait do you notice most in men or women that interest you?
Hah, I remember wanting to have my breasts removed when I was in high school, because they got in the way of weight lifting…and back then I was probably a 70D, whereas now they’re large enough to be properly annoying. Now I think if I had the body I had when I was in high school, I’d be quite happy with it!
I think my best feature is my brain, but still wrapped in my skull, please. I asked my boyfriend and he said “organizational skills” (My question was phrased as “what is my best feature?”). Is that sort of like saying that a person has a nice personality? Anyhow, when I pressed him for a physical characteristic he choose my breasts. I opted for my nose (which is certainly not stunning, but a part of me I quite like).
As for what I notice, it’s eyebrows–probably because my own aren’t nice.
Ok, first let me say this: Twanna Hines is one sexxy ass black woman! The whole package, brains and beauty! Whew! Had to get that off my chest. Ok, my best feature would have to be my tounge, why? It has the ability to put me in all the write places to excel my career, it shows my intelligence, and last but not least, it gives me the chance to make a woman loose her mind, if you know what I mean! Wink wink
And as for what I notice on a woman …its the smile…of which the funky brown chick has a killer one!!!
i like all of my body all of the time. but that’s not why i’m commenting. i just saw this video about nicole eggert’s new baywatch body, which ‘mocks men’s idealizations of women’s bodies’. so funny. mostly because i think even with added weight, the girl is fire. i just hope she thinks so, too.
I guess my face? I don’t really like the rest of me so much, unless I have a chance to show off my rack. :)
I really don’t know….I do make a point of putting my boobs out for the world to see, even if they are just a b cup. My gams also look good when I wear a mean high heel, and I do wear them often.
But, since I wear an air force uniform for work, those aspects don’t apply in the day to day. Most of my military guy friends say it’s the smile that does it with me. Smiling is contagious and I love to inflict that “disease” on any and everyone :o)
Guy friends like my shape, or my long legs in heels, and of course the “rack” (which I want to get rid of). I’d say everything on from the neck down could go for some major/minor improvements, but one thing that I have always loved about myself and use to its full advantage are my eyes. I’ve gotten the “sexy”, “pretty”, “beautiful”, and “bedroom” comments so its safe to say other people like them too. Even as a little school girl I knew how to use them to get what I wanted; except read far away lettering lol. I pretty much love my face, but can definitely find a flaw with the rest of me.
What I notice quickest is personality and intelligence, its the honest to goodness only thing that instantly turns me on. Physically probably would be height. I love a tall man.
I would say my legs, butt and arms. I go to the gym, to maintain and I think that my stomach could be flatter, but most men notice those things about me and tell me, which is kind of embarrassing, yet flattering in a way. When you are on the wrong side of 30, it’s nice to get attention.
To Twanna: Love the dress and your legs are gorgeous. Women should work what they have and not obsess over what they don’t have.
Twanna’s got it, so she should flaunt it.
Legs looking good T. That dress is poppin!
Well… I love your ass, your boobies, your legs and … you’re writing.
You’re/your … same thing :)
A: 70D?!?!?!?!?! :) Wow! I’m not sure my HEAD is a 70D. Speaking of “heads” I think it’s really awesome you said your brain was your best feature, and I think it’s really funny/cool/ironic/cute that the feature you didn’t like is the one that your beau likes best.
bwill: THANK YOU for the compliments. You’re waaaay too kind … and naughty! :)
ieishah: Thanks for the link to the Eggert video. Hilarious!!
Sherry: POST PICTURES OF THE RACK!! ;)
Amiyrah: You’re in the air force? Impressive! Hats off to you.
Berriblk: Don’t get rid of your rack! I soooo wanted a huge rack for YEARS! Nice tastes in men, by the way. Tall, smart men with great personalities are yummy.
puma73: No such thing as the wrong side of 30. Women, like wine, only improve with age. And, I love what you said about, “Women should work what they have and not obsess over what they don’t have.”
AnthonyB: THANK YOU!
Buddha: Thanks, babe!
My beak. Chicks dig the beak.
Only be honest twanna….
I cannot tell a lie
And
and…..
Im more naughty than u think!! :)
Great blogging. I’ve recently converted from an ass to a thigh man.
am hoping that we’re are looking at the cover pix for your tome….
lamesabassman…. ’cause we hate to be teased.. smile… ” baby, you can drive my car….”
I know the Onion piece was satirical, but I do believe the fabulous Tina Turner does indeed have those famous gams insured.
Baba Doodlius: I thought you were going to say feathers! :)
bwill:Â :)
Jimmy: Thanks! :)
lamesabassman: I think I’ve heard that “baby you can drive my car” song.
Aspasia: Agreed. If they aren’t insured, they should be :)
’tis a Beatles with an A tune….
lamesabassman…. beep beep beep beep …yeah
that’s one killer pix…..
lamesabassman….. are there any more at home like you….. thank God for cupcakes….
tobe honest. I dont see anything amiss with you. Ok one thing your Folicle number 1002 on the left is off by 7 degrees. But Seriously. My current GF points out all kinds of things WRONG with her. Im srry I just dont see them. And it drives me nuts!!