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Several years ago, I slept with a guy who faked an orgasm. Unable to complete The Final Act, he put on a performance. When he was done, he pulled out but he was still hard and the condom’s inside was completely dry and empty. I kind of felt bad for him because there’s TREMENDOUS pressure on guys to “make it happen.” Sometimes, they can’t. Wanna know more about other guys who’ve fake it? Read Men Fake It Too! on MSNBC. Also, Psychology Today has a Men Who Fake Orgasms piece, and Marie Claire answers: Why would men fake it? If you’re a guy who faked it (or someone who’s been with a dude who put on theatrics), feel free to share your stories in the comments section below.
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While some might say the reasons why men fake orgasms are similar to why women do it, we must bare in mind that men are just as and even more insecure about their bodies and their bodily functions.
Men just don’t like to admit when they have a problem and they need to see a doctor or psychiatrist.
His foot could turn black from gangrene and a guy would say “It’ll be all right, I’ll put something on it”
Great video. I’ve never done it myself but I sometimes wish it was over sooner, so might try now. Nice blogging.
The subject never “came up” before. Hope it never “comes” to this for me.
Never faked it (feels kinda dishonest, I guess), but have had marathon sessions with my wife that “it” just doesn’t happen and finally I just am worn out. Not bragging, it is not something I am proud of. I am definitely no stallion that can go all night long or anything.
Anyway, not finishing frustrates me to no end…and no matter how good it was for my wife, how hot and sweaty she is, how curled her toes were or how arched her back was, I always feel like I have let her down. Sure, it leaves me unsatisfied and hard for a long period of time after we shut it down, but I always worry more about her experience, or lack thereof. It just feels, well, unfinished. You don’t get to both collapse in the wetspot, completely spent, lying there, having felt that you both are totally connected in so many ways…without saying a word, ya know? It’s just awkward, I guess.
The one saving grace when it happens (and it is rare) is that I am with a woman that I can be completely unashamed with. Yeah, it is frustrating, but she knows me and knows that I feel like I have let her down, even without me saying anything. Sappy, I know, but it’s true….oh, and she never makes me/lets me wait too long to get back on the horse.
There is something serioulsy wrong with not being able to finish the deal, so to speak. I know there have been times where a partially came, and was still hard as a rock, but never no juice at all..as far the guy you where with, he prolly never had a woman as seexy as you with such pussy!!
Saturday evening you’ve mad love twice, early Sunday morning you feel that good old morning glory under the sheets. She has noticed it too – she slides over and straddles you. 25 minutes later still banging away, she’s getting dry and you are getting bored.
There are just times when the old John Thomas has nothing left in the tank. You have two choices
a. You roll over and say ‘you drank me dry honey’,
b. you go ‘ooh aah’ and pretend you had an itsy bitsy teeny weeny orgasm.
Of course you would probably still be hard (wont she be impressed, still hard after coming wow!) – in that case imagine your parents making love – that should ease the pressure.
A couple of hours later with the tanks refilled, no problems.
There is something to be said about not being able to finish the deal, so to speak, can honestly say I’ve never had that happen. I’ve partially came and still been hard, but never bone dry. As far as the the guy you where with, he probably wasn’t ready for that good pussy you have!
gee….
lamesabassman…. at one time or another…. have’nt we all….
I’ve never been with someone who faked it and I’ve never faked it either (I don’t see the point, either I came or I didn’t and if he did something wrong he should know). But I think it’s sad that we all put so much pressure on one another sexually, maybe that’s way both men and women fact it… the pressure is just to much sometimes.
I’ve faked it.
Bottomline is I’m a giver. So I would feel bad if she didn’t have an orgasm, but for me it’s not a requirement.
I’ve faked it because i was tired and wanted to get some sleep, or just to make her feel good….
Because when a guy doesn’t give a woman an orgasm…it’s treated like…”oh darn”
But when a woman doesn’t give a man an orgasm it’s like ” WTF?! whats wrong? are you Ok? did I do something wrong? are you gay?”
The answer is ” No…I’m not gay.. I just have to get up and go to work in 3 hours….”
Hmmm… So there are men who have sex out of duty??? Who knew!
If the man I am with wants to fake it just to stop that is a serious problem. If he’s not honest enough to say “not now” then that’s a problem. If he’s not enjoying being with me, then that is a problem.
Don’t like lies. What’s the point. Sure I’d be displeased that he didn’t want it then, but then it would be so much better when he is ready because my gratification has been delayed.
If this is a common occurance then we have a problem, obviously we aren’t sexually compatible, and that my friends is important to some of us.
Sure, there is more to life than sex, but it is one of life’s pleasures and it matters.
I don’t know if it’s “duty” so much as sometimes my orgasm isn’t as important as her orgasm. I may just want to see her make “that” face, or try something new.
I mean ” duty” is taking out the garbage or doing chores…sex with someone I love is never that. Although it did get to that with my ex wife…..highlight the EX part…LOL
dkzone…..
lamesabassman…. my man…
and… Kali…. you mean you never …ever… faked the funk…. maybe you had a headache
and didnt want to make waves…. maybe it was a goodbye boogie…. maybe it was a
zippless “for unlawful carnal knowledge” good time….
lamesabassman….. ya mean ya never faked the funk….. now that’s hellacool…
Hello, my name is Brotha Tech and I have faked an orgasm *group responds* “Hello Brotha Tech”
I aint even gonna lie, a brotha was just tired and ready to be done…so I did a little goosebump shiver, made a weird looking face, and panted heavily – and that was that.
It wasn’t that the sex was bad, I was just tired. I made sure she got hers and as time went on (and on, and on) I knew it wasn’t gonna happen so I did what I thought made sense at the time…
Looking back, (hindsight is always 20/20) maybe I could’ve cum real honest and said “is it okay if we stop?” But since the sex was good…I just wasn’t gonna finish, I felt like just bowing out without much fuss.
…and honestly I don’t think too many women could handle the fact that she couldn’t finish a brotha off, so I just left it alone (did I say that aloud?)
do we fake orgasm? YES!!! yes we do..sometimes…:-)
i think it’s possible to orgasm without ejaculate, while I’ve never faked one I did have had moments where I was focused on my partners pleasure, lost track and didn’t have my moment.
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