Comments on: Things I Forget When I’m F*cking White Dudes

By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 04:14:11 +0000

I’m not sure what you mean about “the voices you use and the things you say.” :(

By: katie

katie — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:15:01 +0000

I understand, and agree with your point, but dont you think that some of your impressions are degrading of white people, the voices you use and the things you say, because I do, and I think this makes you just as bad as the stupid people that say those things in the first place. By painting white people to all be that dumb you are expressing similar traits to the people you talk about.

By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 20:43:10 +0000

Chet: Come to New York! There's an entire city awaiting your arrival :) Mr. Q.: Me either ;) Horton: "Pink is the color of passion" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLRLhV9U0kQ Puma73: Yeah, the "I don't see color" stuff is as weird as saying, "When I'm having sex with a guy, I don't even see that he's male. I can just look past it." There's nothing inherently wrong with "seeing" anything and there shouldn't be a need to "look past" anything. The issue is the "meaning" attached to what we see. So, I think the folks who say "I don't even see ___" really want to say "At this moment, I'm not attaching any negative meaning to __." That, of course, is a COMPLETELY different can of worms which has very little to do with eyesight. letinstar: Yep. Means you're not blind. And, you're honest. Matthew: :) Puma73: Jon Priest: Great comment! :) And, I think you may have misunderstood the post a bit? It was making fun of / throwing sarcasm at Chris Matthew's "I forgot Obama was black" comment. Poke around my archives and read any of the posts about the black, white, Latino, French, French Canadian, Jewish and pretty much everyon other ethnicity/nationality I've dated. I certainly don't "limit [my] social/sexual interactions to persons of just one group or another" as you've mentioned :) Baba Doodlius: Mrs. Doolius is lucky! Actually, from what you've written about her, it seems you're both lucky to have found each other. JoeClyde: Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Lots of interesting stuff in your comment. Especially the "saying ... you don’t see color but you only date one. That makes you a coward."

By: JoeClyde

JoeClyde — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 06:00:57 +0000

I personally hate when people say love is colorblind or they don’t see color. That is a complete crock of sht.

Everybody has there on personal prejudices. Especially about race and gender. But you look past it for that person. That doesn’t mean that you won’t think ill of another person.

People have preferences. It’s a free country. If you are only attracted to a certain race. That is your preference. You see a color and you go to that color. It doesn’t make you bad. But saying lines like you don’t see color but you only date one. That makes you a coward.

By: Baba Doodlius

Baba Doodlius — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:03:55 +0000

So how do you feel about green guys? :)

Kidding, of course. I’m already spoken for – I only have eyes (etc.) for Mrs. Doodlius.

By: Jon Priest

Jon Priest — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 17:33:36 +0000

Do you forget what his skin color is when you’re with a black guy?
I’m sorry; if this sounds too hateful, please don’t post it.
The whole point is that when you are with someone it is for the purpose of shared/mutual pleasure. f you are worried about his/her skin color, then you are not concentrating on YOUR job, which is to provide your partner with the maximum pleasure of which you are capable so that they can do the same for you (isn’t it wonderful that I can find the selfishness in almost any pursuit?). If you are in this with the attitude that I am here to get mine and yours is your problem, then honey, start walking.
It has been my experience that if you limit your social/sexual interactions to persons of just one group or another, then you are shrinking your ‘dating pool’ pretty severely and missing out on some of the best experiences of your life.
I am a Celtic male (Scottish/Viking ancestry) who was happily married to a woman of Kenyan background for 28 years until her death in a traffic mishap. We never discussed race in our household and our son and daughter never recognized an ethnic difference. We all just behaved as humans and were happy that way. I think that you are probably getting bogged down in the meaningless minutiae of societal relationships (so be careful and don’t exclude the person/s who may bring you the most joy).

By: Puma73

Puma73 — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:37:51 +0000

I like the lights on because I like to see everything. I can’t remember when I’ve had the lights off during sex…

By: Matthew

Matthew — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 06:11:58 +0000

ummm how do you know anyone’s color when the lights are off??? in the bedroom or a back room?

By: letinstar

letinstar — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 04:27:54 +0000

i see color because i have eyes than can see….that’s what eyes do…:)

By: Puma73

Puma73 — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:19:35 +0000

Maybe it’s just me, but I do notice the skin contrast between our skin colors. Of course I know that he’s White and I’m Black. To me, that is part of the turn-on. But from what I know, BM and WM all pull some of the same faces and make the same sounds. Men, in general are funny to watch during those moments. I like to watch them and get down to business. Sometimes multi-tasking can be fun.