Happy Monday! As previously mentioned, at Kiss & Tell I planned to perform a piece about John Mayer’s Playboy interview. I couldn’t do the full performance because the show was canceled. (Inclement weather.) However, since I brought the topic up on Funky Brown Chick – and several of you left comments and emailed me to ask, “What did you think about his interview?”– here are my quick and jumbled thoughts …
Playboy is about sex. Playboy wants to be racy. And, in America — for several reasons — conversations about race & sex are often racy. However, lest we lose perspective, I was talking about Playboy. John Mayer, on the other hand, is a musician — not a respected commentator about topics related to either sexuality or ethnicity. In fact, if he were better informed about either topic, I highly doubt he would’ve said such ignorant remarks about race (i.e. comparing his cock to a white supremacist) or sexuality (i.e. he used the word “fags” to describe gay men and said he could “outgay” Perez Hilton). That’s classy, right? ;) Anyway. Moving right along.
I feel blessed to have guy friends, acquaintances and others who are black, Asian, Mexican, beefy & brown, Canadian, French Canadian, German and other nationalities and ethnicities. Those are pals. My boyfriends, lovers and fuck buddies span an equally wide spectrum. Why? That’s just how I roll.
So, when John Mayer said “I don’t think I open myself to [dating black women],” my immediate reaction was: Too bad for him :) Apparently, he’ll never experience the pleasures more open minded (and mature!) men like model Gabriel Aubry, film critic Roger Ebert, rockstar David Bowie, R&B crooner Robin Thicke, celebrity chef Wolfgang Puck, actors Justin Chambers, Chris Noth (a.k.a. Sex in the City’s “Big”), Robert DeNiro, Brad Pitt and so many others who have, ahem, dipped vanilla sticks in chocolate pudding. ;)
C’est tout. I’m already tired of this story. There are more pressing matters worthy of attention and many many interesting characters more deserving of a Manly Monday nod. Soooo, coming up next, a very musical Manly Monday selection to charm your ears. Stay tuned.
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I’m not really a JM fan, so I can’t say I care too much what he has to say; however, after going around to various websites and youtube, et. al., I have to say I’m tired of us brown chicks getting a D- in attractiveness. I just read an article in Time magazine about hwo racially biased people are on dating sites. This is America and to each his own, but it’s just sad to here things like that.
Why the heck would anybody care what John Mayer says? I’ mean really, he’s a goofus.
I’m a day late and a dollar short but I really liked this post. Summarizes the inanity of the whole JM spectacle. Sigh.
Egwene: Yes, exactly, it’s important to make distinctions. Not everyone gives all brown-women women an automatic D- in attraction. Only some men. So at least, on that part, I commend John Mayer for being honest by saying “I don’t” instead of weaseling out & distancing himself by saying “people don’t.” For that, he deserves credit. Ah, one of the many awesome benefits of therapy, I can more easily spot it when others try to shove their personal emotion shit on others (i.e. projection).
Baba Doodlius: Right? The whole thing was so really really goofy :)
Hey Cheryl! I think we were typing at the same time. Glad you like the post! There’s no such thing as a day late and a dollar short on this site; feel free to post your comments whenever you like.
JM was a moron before this interview. This isn’t the first time he has had diarrhea of the mouth. I honestly don’t care who he chooses to sleep with, he just needs to shut up and play his guitar– that is what he is good at. I like his music– not a huge fan, but I’m just over the whole thing about him being such a Douche Bag.
At first i thought what a jerk I had no idea, he was so dumb, but after all that is just what he thinks, if he is not attracted to Bw, so what? I’ts not like we’re wasting some kind of ideal men or some (even physically he has nothing special), and thanks God there are plenty of other smarter and sexier open-minded men!
“My boyfriends, lovers and fuck buddies span an equally wide spectrum. Why? That’s just how I roll.” <—classic
John mayer is like T.O.
Once the media found out that putting a microphone in front of his face is sheer comedy….we got it shoved down our throught on a regular basis. It has nothing to do with what they do professionally. It’s just salacious sound bites
To me the funny comes in when mayer refers to jessica simpson Ill nana as “crack” that has got to be like one of the highest forms of sexual compliments. Pussy so good you need a twelve step program and a patch to walk away from it. LOL
I even Give jessica credit for her southern gentile reaction. She basically just smiled and blushed about it.
puma73: It’s strange. I can’t name more than three of his songs, but I can name at least three women. He’s dated. Read the Playboy article about him but haven’t read any reviews of his albums. In the media, I hear more about his personal life than his music. There are several musicians for which this isn’t the case. But, he’s not really one of them.
Diyanna: :)
dkzone: Glad you liked that!
Thank you, FBC, for this post, and thank you, Baba Doodlius, for your comment. People are making a big deal out of Mayer’s comments about black women, but just b/c there is one guy out there who isn’t into black women, doesn’t mean that there aren’t plenty who are. ;)
Yeah, a simple “I prefer white girls” would have sufficed.
Not a mayer fan..