Since yesterday’s post was about sex, I figured I’d follow it up with a post about sexual identity. When I met filmmaker Arielle Loren, I was excited to hear about THE BI-DEOLOGY PROJECT, a documentary series about straight women who have dated bisexual men. If you’ve read Straight Woman Dating Bisexual / Bi Curious Guys and yet A Few More Thoughts About Bisexual Guys, you know a couple of my exes were/are bisexual.
At New York University, Arielle’s senior thesis was titled “Proper Heterosexism: African-American Female Voices in the Media on African-American Male Bisexuality and the Down Low.” Or, to translate to non-academia speak: “Hating: What Brown Women in Media Say about Brown-on-Brown-Cock-on-Vagina-on-Cock.” Either way you slice it, here’s the first installment of Arielle‘s ongoing film series. For the record, I’m a non-hater. So — as you’ll probably gather once you watch the full video below — the snippet in the beginning where I say something like “Aren’t you afraid of diseases?” was me telling the camera what women have asked when I mention bisexual exes. As I’ve said before, boinking with an HIV- bisexual man’s condom-wrapped penis is much safer than barebacking it with an HIV+ straight dude. But, enough about me. On with the much-needed bisexuality resource film about bisexuality lifestyle.
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I just made a comment on the actual website for the installments but I figured I’d copy and paste the same comment here (stalker much?).
I just watched the first installment and I’m officially waiting for the next release! This couldn’t have come at a more perfect time in my life because I’m dating someone who I suspect is secretly harboring bi-sexual feelings. Before dating him, there was no way in HELL I would date a bisexual man but since getting to know him and sensing that he might have some same-sex preferences , I’ve really been forced to examine my own views on human sexuality. Hopefully the entire series will help me come to terms with some of my own feelings about the subject and maybe find the ability to FINALLY get rid of the elephant in the room.
This is great. I hope there’s more to come soon. I can’t wait.
We first need to distinguish men who are ‘low down’ from those who accept their attraction to both men and women. We also have to acknowledge that HIV transmission is not only a male-to-female phenomenon. Women’s bodies are often regulated for the benefit of patriarchy, but I think we have a fear of male sexuality. Conflating (biological) sex and sexual attraction within a heteronormative framework secures patriarchy. Being afraid of men who do not sleep with women then looks as if we need men to always fulfill that idea of dominance.
Very interesting article, once again, but I still wonder why it is always about bi-sexual men, what about bi-sexual women dating guys? there are always so few articles dealing with female bi-sexuality, except when guys are involved in the game, why is it so hard for us (women) to talk about it?
Marla: Yeah, I thinks it’s great that Arielle’s doing this project. Can’t wait to see more.
Amina: Me too!
Pamela: Deep comment. You mention, “I think we have a fear of male sexuality.” Might make male sexuality a Manly Monday topic. If you’re interested, check out “How Men Learn to Masturbate.”
Dyana: Interesting perspective. I feel like I see bisexual women in pop culture (and can name a handful of bisexual female celebrities) much more than openly bisexual male celebrities. But, in research, the trend seems to be reversed.
Male sexuality as a Manly Monday topic would be fantastic. Those clips remind me of the first time I masturbated. Talk about being startled and satisfied at the same time. I’m sure my stuffed rabbit was too. LOL…