Man, fuck Philip R. Greaves II :( As you’ve likely heard, Amazon.com openly sold at least two of his pro-pedophilia books — including The Pedophile’s Guide To Love And Pleasure. As public outcry grew pretty shrill, they firmly asserted, basically: we think it’s okay to sell books about molesting little kids, but it’s not okay to sell “pornographic” books about consensual sex between adults. Ah, yes. Pornography? Horrible. Dirty old men fondling young, underdeveloped boys and girls? Totally okay. WHAT. THE. FUCK? Every day on earth is another 24 hours to wonder, What the hell is wrong with people? Free speech my ass. Abusers often cowardly hide behind words like “freedom” as they seek to strip away the rights of others. The right to live in non-hostile environments. The right to enjoy the innocence of youth. The right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. For a brutally honest account of how horrible, disgusting and evil it feels to be molested by someone you trust, read Joel Johnson’s Why I’m Funny. Brace yourself. It begins: The first time I ever came in anyone’s mouth, it was into the mouth of my stepfather. So what if it makes you uncomfortable. Read it anyway. At least you’ll understand why it’s problematic Amazon sold The Pedophile’s Guide To Love And Pleasure. Jesus Christ. Thank God they finally bowed to pressure and removed Greaves’ book. Hats off to Anderson Cooper for great reporting.
In an effort to help protect our children and spread positive sexuality, I’ll now direct you to Scarleteen. It’s a great resource for kids who want to know about sex. A recent post is titled: I was a teenager in the 80′s, but before that I was a kid who got molested. Read it to understand why this shit matters. Then, donate to Scarleteen. Speaking of the organization, I want to thank them for inviting me to be part of their blog carnival raising awareness of what they do. Learn more about their mission.
Although FUNKY BROWN CHICK® content isn’t necessarily geared toward the younguns, we were all once children, right? So, here are 5 things I wish I knew about sex when I was a kid.
- It is okay to have sex.
- It is okay to have sex with people who are from other religious, national or ethnic backgrounds.
- It is NOT okay to let grown people touch your private parts. That’s called abuse.
- If one of your friends likes to have sex with people who have the same junk, it is okay to still keep them as a friend. Despite what your church tells you, hating them — or the so-called “sin” in them — is NOT the Christian thing to do.
- It’s okay to admit there are things you don’t know about sex, and it’s okay to talk about that stuff so you’ll learn more.
Sounds simple enough, right? But, sadly, I didn’t learn any of those lessons until later in life because no one sat me down to talk about sexuality in an open, healthy environment. So, talk to your younger relatives about sex … and support Scarleteen, since they’ll go online to find answers to stuff they aren’t comfortable discussing with you :) Feel free to use the comments section below to share things you wish YOU knew about sex when you were younger.
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I wish Scarleteen existed when I was younger. I had so many questions and no one willing to answer them. I could have avoided a lot of mistakes.
At least you can take a little comfort in the fact that this guy was self-published (so it was just him) and he only sold one copy, probably to a journalist covering the story. Still, all ‘freedom’ aside, Amazon shoulda known better than to get their company name associated with this sort of shit.
I wish I would have learned that masturbation is necessary for your self development. I
I wish I had know that being molested by someone of the same ethnic background (and gender) might make me dislike and distrust my own kind. No interest at all in black men, and I’ll never know if that’s the way I naturally am or if I’m permanently damaged.
Thanks so much for this. I’m not a teen- I’m in my twenties, but I grew up in a religious family and never had anyone I could talk to comfortably about sex. I just recently had my first sexual experience, and this list rings so true.
When it comes to sex, I wish I had learned that you can be cool without being sexually active
patience is a virtue there is no need to do it before you are truly ready
Safe sex is a must. the absence of protection doesn’t show how much you ‘luv’ someone.
don’t be afraid to tell your parents and if they don’t believe you keep talking until you find someone who will. no one is gonna hurt you if you talk unless they want to go to jail.
it is supposed to be a beautiful experience. not something to say “I did ‘it’”
I really lucked out, thanks in large part to my mother. Even though she was personally conservative (due to some self-esteem issues mostly), she didn’t ever without sexual information from me nor did she discourage my questions or curiosity. Sure, advise to be careful before making decisions. But my body was always mine to do with as I pleased, especially as an older teenager. And while I had crushes on boys, I was never boy-crazy and so did not rush foolishly into those teenage relationships. By sixteen I had also ditched the mentality of having a male-oriented self-esteem that continues to plague so many.
That said, I still wish Scarleteen was around when I was younger because I probably could have found some kindred spirits on there. It was very lonely growing up as a teenage girl who was so strong and resolute in not acting like a pubescent airhead just to get boys to “like me” and so I could have sex. That was the hard part for me, staying the course and weathering (at first) the “insults” of lesbianism because I didn’t have a world that revolved around a dude.
AMEN to nos. four and five and Baba Doodlius, yummy girl and Aspasia!!!
My father was gone most of the time (he was in the Navy) and my mother was apparently “very easy” as a teen. She seems to have been trying to make up for this when she told me and my three siblings that all sexual activity is bad. Maybe that’s why I was so old when I finally lost my virginity.
Great post–this top 5 list should be required reading for anyone who is thinking about having sex!
It’s okay to change my mind about having sex. If it’s not a absolute “yes”, then it’s always “no”.
My ex boyfriend had serious problems with “no” and would guilt me into having sex with with anyway.