Mar 212013
Seeking Asian Female

Left to Right: Debbie, Sandy, and Steven. SEEKING ASIAN FEMALE

You have to see documentary film SEEKING ASIAN FEMALE. Steven is an old American dude who wants a young, beautiful Chinese bride. Sandy meets him online and flees Anhui, China, to marry him in California. She doesn’t speak English, and he doesn’t speak Mandarin. Chinese American documentary filmmaker Debbie Lum captures it all on film. You’ll cringe as much as you laugh. It’s called “a quirky, intensely intimate, totally captivating story about love, marriage, ‘yellow fever’… and documentary filmmaking.” Last year, I met Debbie and saw her film; I can’t recommend it highly enough.

SEEKING ASIAN FEMALE is rolling through the festival circuit and sells out often. If you’re in the San Francisco Bay Area, grab rush tickets for the already sold-out 5:00pm, 3/23, CAAMFEST 2013 screening at New People theater. As a bonus, you’ll get a sneak-peek at Debbie’s six-part web series They’re All So Beautiful, which launches April 1. If you’re outside San Francisco, stay tuned to the website for They’re All So Beautiful‘s debut and catch SEEKING ASIAN FEMALE when PBS airs it May 6. In the meantime, be sure to read Debbie’s piece covering Myths about Dating Asian Women:

  • Myth No. 1: Asian women make perfect wives. They have good family values and cater to the man.
  • Myth No. 2: Asian Women are sweet, innocent and submissive.
  • Myth No. 3: An American man is an Asian woman’s “ticket to a better life.”
  • Myth No. 4: Asian women are sex-crazed, and sex with Asian women is easy.

You’re curious to hear what she has to say. Go ahead, read Asian Women And White Men.

  7 Responses to ““White Men, Asian Women Make Perfect Wives””

  1. How on earth can they ever get a meaningful relationship.

    Age gap is huge and they don’t even speak a common language.

    I really do not understand this and it makes me curious to see the documentary in May.

    - Jen

    • I guess teaching each other a different language will mean that you spend a lot of quality time together.

      I know a couple that didn’t speak the same language – what they did was learn Esperanto together.

  2. No woman is the same no matter what background they come from.
    You may find a woman with some, all, or none of these personality traits, but you’ll never find true happiness searching for love if you’re only basing your ideas on such stereotypes.

    I’ve dated Asian women in the past but within my age group. These have always started through a friendship met via work, college or mutual friends, so we had something in common in the first place as with any other relationship. I would never consider meeting someone online from a different country and certainly not years younger, destined to fail….

    Would be interested in watching this documentary too but I’m in England :(

    • There have been successful long-distance relationships. You just have to eventually shorten the distance =). I don’t believe in avoiding it because of ‘destiny’.

  3. [...] told you about the documentary film SEEKING ASIAN FEMALE airing on PBS May 6. The six-part companion [...]

  4. I happen to know and know of quite a few Asian/White marriages and there seems to be a cultural gap which persists after the marriage, that each needs to adapt to. At time they cannot adapt and end upon feeling alienated–particularly the female side of the equation.

  5. Hey TWH, your slogan is “Smart Sex, Hotter Relationships”; how about “Hot Sex, Smartter Relationships” to be more socially conscious and green oriented?

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