BlogHer

Bringing Sex Out of the Closet

Jul 272010

If you’re registered for BlogHer 2010, I’m leading a panel discussion — Bringing Sex Out of the Closet — and warmly invite you to attend. It takes place 2:45pm to 4:00pm next Friday, August 6, at The Hilton New York in Midtown. We’ll discuss how to engage the internet to the fullest in order to meet your sexual needs. Panelists include: Kristen Chase, Mominatrix sex advice columnist & author ofÂ The Mominatrix’s Guide to Sex: A No-Surrender Advice Book for Naughty Moms; Tess Danesi, BDSM blogger; Anaiis Flox, BlogHer’sÂ Love & Sex Contributing Editor; and Genia Stevens, host of lesbian and gay talk radio, SistersTalk. This isn’t going to be an esoteric “What Is Sex?” discussion. We want you to get laid. We’ve compiled a “Best Of” list of online sexual health resources. We’re going to tell you how to safely and/or anonymously experiment with your sexual identity online. We’ll even tell you how it may be possible the internet could save your relationship. BlogHer conference sessions are extremely participatory. So, if there’s something you want to know, ask! Come armed with tons of questions.

I’m excited about the panel because, among us, we’re straight, gay, black, white, married, single, moms, happily childfree and a bunch of other things in between. We don’t agree on everything. For example, Tess wrote Time Out New York article “I Want To Be Raped.” I’m not into BDSM, and rape fantasies aren’t my thing. Kristen’s a mom. We know how I feel about kids. Genia likes vagina. I’m a dick chick. And, AV Flox? She’s ride or die West Coast. For now, I’m still in New York City. My thoughts when pulling these women together was: The audience isn’t going to be a homogeneous bunch, so the panel shouldn’t be either.

Interestingly, when I told someone about the event, their response was an audible “Eww!” Yes, eww as in: You’re going to BlogHer to talk about sex? How frivoulous. How vulgar. How titillating and unimportant. That’s called sexual repression. And, that’s exactly why we’re doing this panel. What’s more? I’m very proud to announce our sponsor, EdenFantasys, is hooking attendees up with free, sex toy-filled, KICKASS swag bags. Here’s a sneak peek of the goodies people attending our session will receive:

Video link: http://video.edenfantasys.com/videos/bringing-sex-out-of-the-closet/
Yeah, sexual repression isn’t my thing. So, hope to see some of you at Bringing Sex Out of the Closet! If you drop by, be sure to say hi and introduce yourself if we haven’t yet met.

Black Women, Lesbians & Transgenders, Oh My!! ;)

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Aug 272009

Reading the transgendered piece on BlogHer reminded me I never wrote about attending and speaking at the their annual conference. Quite honestly, initially, I worried the vast majority of attendees would be mommybloggers and I thought I — a New York-dwelling, single, avidly childfree, funky brown chick — would be the odd woman out :( I didn’t really know what to expect. I’d met Elisa Camahort Page on previous occasions, but I didn’t know her very well nor had I yet experienced the pleasure meeting Lisa Stone and Jory Des Jardins in person. Also, it was my first BlogHer annual conference; so, I thought I’d have a good time at a nice event for passionate mommybloggers doing great things in business and online, but that would be it.

I’m happy to report the conference was even better than I thought it would be. Sessions included “Women of Color and Marketing,” LGBTQ roundtables and other diversity-centered talks. The shindig (and corresponding parties!) were well-organized, high-quality, informative and FUN. I’d undoubtedly forget a few events if I tried to list each of my favorites; so, I won’t. However, I definiltey wanted to blog about my FAVORITE part of the conferece — The Community Keynote. Instead of reserving the floor for a big shot, well-known speaker, this particular piece of the conference highlights ordinary women navigating extraordinarily human experiences. Stories included: Issa‘s heart-breaking tale about her mentally ill, homeless Uncle Marky; Karen Walrond’s inspiring Reflections On Why the Election of Barack Obama Affected Me So Deeply; Sheri Reed‘s brutally honest piece “Amends” about alcoholism; and Danielle Henderson‘s funny story about a multi-day trial of a tampon lodged in her vagina after having sex with her husband. The latter didn’t go to the doctor for nearly a week because, “In my family, going to the doctor to have a foreign object removed from your body is a total ‘dick move’.”) Watch the entire Community Keynote below:

Also, be sure to check out my co-panelists’ fabulous blogs!! They’re online: The Pioneer Woman, Ree Drummond; social media guru Laura Roeder; and veteran online marketer Susan Getgood)