“Women rule the world, and they have all of the power when it comes to dating,” says my guy friend Jonathan. I’m single. Jonathan is single. We’re at a bar sipping martinis, and we’re arguing over who has a harder time with the single life: men or women. “I read the stuff that you write on your blog,” Jonathan tells me. “You make it sound like single women have such a hard time and men have it so easy.” (NOTE: I disagree with Jonathan. But, whatever.) According to Jonathan, very attractive single women hold the world in the palms of their beautifully manicured hands. “Let me give you an example,” he says and I can’t wait to hear what he’s going to come up with now. “If a hot single woman wants to go to Japan, all she has to do is find some rich old guy. He’ll not only take the hot woman there, he’ll pay for everything too. Attractive women can have everything they want! And, that fucking sucks because it’s not fair.”

Perhaps, Jonathan’s sentiments hold true in other cities. But, here in New York, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Remember that Time Out New York article from a couple of months ago? (Psst! National Geographic reported the US Census figures for New York first, but the TONY article article got more coverage.) In any case, it’s a well-known fact that this city holds at least 185,000 more single women than single men. It’s hard out here for us single female pimps. I’m serious! I was so fucking frustrated after reading that TONY article that I wanted to come up with a conniving plot to knock off, kidnap, or otherwise rid this city of almost two hundred thousand of its most eligible & sexy single women. But, demographics be damned, Jonathan still thinks the bedicked of the dating world have it harder than the beovaried. And, truth be told, there are more than enough stats to back up his position as well.

Last year, AARP reported that single women have never been happier. Furthermore, as we already know, marriage is hazardous if you’re a woman and helpful if you’re a man. (Married men live longer than single men, but single women live longer than married men.) Want a bit of anecdotal evidence as well? Sexpot Donna tells me that she knows at least one guy who agrees with Jonathan’s position. “Yeah, I told one of my guy coworkers what you recently said about single women in this city,” she says. “He completely disagrees with you.” I start to wonder: What in the name of all that is holy are Jonathan and Sexpot Donna’s male coworker smoking? But, then I take a step back. Maybe, just maybe, I’m wrong? And, maybe the boys are right? Hmmm … This leads me to ask each of you reading this to use the comment section below to weigh in on this question — whether coupled, partnered, gay, straight or other — tell me: In your opinion, do single men have a harder life than single women? Bachelors or bacherlorettes? Whose single life sucks more?

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